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valiant_queeneThis is a really personal post for me. I just needed a place to post my thoughts. So, here goes.
I don't know what to do.
I have a teenage sister. Mneme is fifteen years old. I don't know anything about her, at all. I have learned today that not only did she date a boy for a month recently, but also that they broke up over two weeks ago. I also learned that this boy is now dating another girl, a girl he used to date before my sister, and a friend of hers as well. And that he called my sister an hour ago to inform her of this.
She is not taking it well. That's actually the understatement of the millennium.
First some background. She takes after me and the middle sister too much. The both of us are incredibly passionate people, loving loyally and with all our hearts. While Melete, my eighteen year old sister, loves pretty much anybody who will love her back, I am more exclusive about who I love that much. Mneme has taken our passion and my exclusivity and taken it to new heights.
She believes this boy is her soul mate, and as I sit here, she is screaming and crying and destroying her bedroom asking why her. And I don't know what to tell her. Other than, no matter how beautiful it sounds, or how often it happens in books or movies, one rarely meets their soul mate at fifteen.
It doesn't help that the family religion is intent on her (all three of us, in fact) marrying young. That is all we were taught, how to be a good mother and a good wife.
This is not healthy. And I don't know what to do. I feel anger that she has allowed one boy to affect her so much. I feel terrified that she might consider doing something rash. I am worried that I don't know what to say to her or what to do, and that I will do or say something that will make it worse.
I don't know what to do.
I have a teenage sister. Mneme is fifteen years old. I don't know anything about her, at all. I have learned today that not only did she date a boy for a month recently, but also that they broke up over two weeks ago. I also learned that this boy is now dating another girl, a girl he used to date before my sister, and a friend of hers as well. And that he called my sister an hour ago to inform her of this.
She is not taking it well. That's actually the understatement of the millennium.
First some background. She takes after me and the middle sister too much. The both of us are incredibly passionate people, loving loyally and with all our hearts. While Melete, my eighteen year old sister, loves pretty much anybody who will love her back, I am more exclusive about who I love that much. Mneme has taken our passion and my exclusivity and taken it to new heights.
She believes this boy is her soul mate, and as I sit here, she is screaming and crying and destroying her bedroom asking why her. And I don't know what to tell her. Other than, no matter how beautiful it sounds, or how often it happens in books or movies, one rarely meets their soul mate at fifteen.
It doesn't help that the family religion is intent on her (all three of us, in fact) marrying young. That is all we were taught, how to be a good mother and a good wife.
This is not healthy. And I don't know what to do. I feel anger that she has allowed one boy to affect her so much. I feel terrified that she might consider doing something rash. I am worried that I don't know what to say to her or what to do, and that I will do or say something that will make it worse.
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